As a psychotherapist who works with dozens of singles and married couples every year, I am constantly amazed at how many people stumble their way into marriage–and then wonder why their relationship grows miserably stagnant or chronically contentious.
They simply did not approach this monumental decision objectively and proactively. 80 million men and women in the United States are single.
Yet, the biggest complaint about being single is, “All the good ones are taken!” Now, are all the “good ones” really taken, or are you meeting people who are not the best ones for you?
It means accepting responsibility for our own happiness or unhappiness, and neither expecting the other person to make us happy nor blaming that person for our bad moods and frustrations.