DrBev, Break up to Make up that’s all I DO

How many times have you taken your love away from yourself?  Only to feel hurt, angry, empty, and even more disappointed in your Self.

In those moments the emotional uncomforting feeling is so over-whelming that most of us will do practically anything to make ourselves feel better.

Ever wonder if there is someway you could learn how to make-up with yourself and continue to remain committed to loving you?  To never to break your own heart again?

I will give you three guesses and the first two don’t count.  Ok, I will give you a clue…”See the video at the end of the article: Live from Japan, Earth, Wind & Fire, That’s the way of the world.”



Welcome to DrBev’s World.  Here is a thought for you to ponder “When we don’t know that we don’t know then we really don’t know.”  How be so ever, as my Nana would say “When you know…ACT like you know.” With that said let’s play knowledge and education.  Self-hate is the most sinister and persistent problem we all have. Self-hate underlies most emotional and behavioral patterns, AND rules most relationships. The patterns springing from it can hide from your view in a wide variety of ways. That’s because self-hate hides so well, and has the ability to connect-a-dot with other emotional and behavioral patterns for its use.

An article in “Our Pathway Home” states, “Remember, the purpose of a pattern is twofold: to mask the real feelings/pain we hold, and to play out or create the reality of the beliefs within the pattern.”

The reality is self-hate patterns are about your feelings of deep unworthiness.  It is what it is, however, Using DrBev’s Edge-Play Eight System, you can “Make up with Your-Self and well-love you, forever.”  Bottom line Self-Hate has two allies that it using against you “Blaming and Shaming”.

Here are several tools and skills to begin to practice to love you enough to make up with you and commit to nurturing your self-worth.   Annette Colby writes in her article, Seven Simple Ways to Fall in Love With Yourself”

Create a Big Vision for Your Life. Think big and write it down.  Start Small. Your big written dream is only a roadmap, not a daily action plan.  Look for the Passion in Your Journey. Having more passion involves a sense of knowing what you want and moving in that direction because doing so is important to you. Live in the Present. Take whatever steps are necessary to heal your past, forgive and let go, and live in the present moment.  Demonstrate Appreciation to Yourself. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.  Look For the Best In Yourself. Don’t just come up with a thing or two you enjoy about yourself, come up with a hundred wonderful things about you. Write those things down and begin the process of teaching yourself to recognize the love that is you.  Engage in New Activities and Have More Fun. While it’s important to learn how to love and embrace those hard-to-love parts of ourselves, we often forget to hit the easy button.  One easy way to get out the rut and experience more vibrancy is to do something out of the ordinary. Today, find at least one new way to laugh and play and explore!

If you would like make an action to increase your emotional net-worth and take whatever steps that are necessary to heal your past, forgive and let go, and live in the present moment. Make an action; Contact DrBev, I have a few available counseling slots for private clients via, Skype, Telephone, or In-Person. Here is what you do, easy as 1, 2, 3: Subscribe to DrBev’s World www.drbevmentalhealth.com.  Comment on this article and receive 75% off Consultation fee.  Request your consultation discount @ DrBev @ drbevmentalhealth.com.



DrBev is a National Certified Counselor, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and a Certified Gestalt Psychotherapist, Seminar - WorkShop Facilitator, Radio Personality, Author and President and Educational Director of DrBev Mental Health Counseling.
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  1. Viv
    Posted July 29, 2011 at 5:27 pm | Permalink

    Wonderful, wonderful article, Dr.Bev! This is definitely an issue that we all deal with. Speaking for myself, I continue to do my own inner work on a daily basis. I love and connect with others, but also, stay committed to loving myself. I allow myself to live, have fun, and enjoy the moment, trying to never live in the past, or in the future. I am constantly learning and growing within. I don’t presume to know it all, because I don’t. I am very REAL about my emotions and feel free within myself, to always express them. However, I know who I’ll call though, if I should ever feel stuck in my life or in somekind of emotional pain. Only the BEST!


  2. Viv
    Posted August 1, 2011 at 12:27 pm | Permalink

    In your article you say that self- hate underlies most emotional and behavioral patterns and rules most relationships. I look back on my life; my past relationships, and know this is so true. At times, it becomes quite disappointing to me, knowing that I wasted so much time, so much of my life. However, on the other hand, I’m grateful to knowing what I know now, and I strive on learning how to “Love Me” more everyday, for this is one of the most important attributes to have.


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